What the Heck is going on?

What the hell is going on?
5 ways to cope when the world’s gone crazy.

OMG, what the heck is going on?
Orlando. Baton Rouge. Minnesota. Dallas. Nice. Turkey.

We can’t catch our breath and properly mourn one horrific event before the next one comes and knocks us off our center.

Racial tension is thick in the air and this presidential election is a contentious mess.

It feels like we are living through the tumultuous sixties, but without the hindsight that everything will eventually be alright.

Right now, it feels like the world is an especially dangerous and crazy place.

I haven’t even been able to write a newsletter in a good long while because I’ve been feeling wonky like most of you!

What can I, purveyor of sunshine, rainbows and unicorns, possibly say that might be helpful when world events are so big and so heavy?
Yesterday I got a message from a client whom I adore who said, “Do you think things need to fall apart so that they can fall together? Or are they just falling apart?”

I didn’t even ask the details of what she was talking about, because frankly, I didn’t need to.

It’s the same stuff I’ve talked to almost every client, friend or colleague I’ve met with in the past two months.

And it’s not just world events that have us feeling freaked out. It seems to be a particularly charged time emotionally for people as well. 

I can’t think of one person I know who isn’t dealing with at least one major upheaval in their life—most are going through several simultaneously.

So if you feel like you would like to hide under the covers with a sleeve of Oreos and wait until you feel better, I want you to know- it’s not just you. You are not alone.
We are not wired to deal with every single awful atrocity committed in every corner of the globe.

Literally, our nervous systems cannot handle the overload, and with the popularity of social media and media alerts on our phones, it’s getting harder and harder to shield ourselves from the constant barrage of bad news.

Here are 5 ways to cope:


  1. I know you are probably a little weary of hearing about the benefits of meditation. But seriously, try just a few minutes of a guided meditation. Any meditation. Email me if you’d like one of mine. Seriously, just a few minutes really helps. And while you’re at it, take some very deep breaths—we forget to breathe!
  2. Circle the wagons. Get together with your tribe. DO NOT ISOLATE yourself. That’s a shit spiral waiting to happen. Don’t have a tribe? Find one person you can talk openly about your feelings to. Connection breeds feelings of safety.
  3. Volunteer or perform random acts of kindness.  I’ve seen pictures of cold drinks dropped off for the police officers in Baton Rouge, a man with a sign giving away free hugs to marathon runners, and a line of people wanting to express their appreciation to the Dallas police force. Be creative. “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
  4. Be very very kind to yourself. If you are suffering, treat yourself the way you would treat a child who was hurting. Put yourself to bed when you are tired, eat good food, give yourself a warm, relaxing bath, watch comedies, and spend lots of time in nature and with pets.
  5. Remember that even though it doesn’t feel like it right now, this is actually the least violent time in history. Really—google it. But that doesn’t let any of us off the hook. We need to exemplify goodness and fight for justice. Doesn’t feel like enough? Try it, the ripple effect from each kindness you demonstrate will ripple out and affect people you’ve never even met.

 We can get through this love-muffins! Let’s take care of each other, ok?


What the Heck is going on?